Get Tantric just in time for doomsday!

Squeee…today Jenny Hansen and I are blog swapping. Squeee! Can you believe she actually gave me the keys to More Cowbell?!?! I know…I was shocked as well. I am over there dishing my thoughts on some age-old dating advice…a must-read before Doomsday (you know…the Mayan prophecy that Friday December 21, 2012 the world will end. It’s ok my fabulous peeps…Jenny and I are here to help you get your groove on before the pending doom).

So enjoy Jenny’s post on how to get all bad-ass Tantric with yourselves and then pop over to More Cowbell to hang with yours truly…take it away Jenny….


Thanks Nat!!! Wow…things are always exciting over here at Nat’s place! I get to have a great time, crack some jokes, and indulge my naughty side *if you know what I mean*…

I’m going to let you in on a secret.

I might hang out most of the time at More Cowbell and Writers In The Storm, but lately I’ve been expanding my horizons a bit and publishing short articles on some of the SocialIn sites. Have you heard of them? Social In DC, Social In New York, Social In Los Angeles…you get the picture.

This latest bump to my freelance dreams started with a conversation I had with another writer a few months back. She’d received a writing assignment that wigged her out.

[We’ll just call her Monique.]

Monique: Hey! I just had an assignment come across my desk that has you written all over it.

Me: Yeah? How so?

Monique: Well, it’s about sex. Anyone who writes the Undie Chronicles can surely interview a sex therapist better than I can.

Me: Wow! Really?! A sex therapist? I’ve always wanted to chat up a sex therapist.

Monique: Of course you do.

Me: Give me the info…I wanna look this person up. *tap-tapping the keyboard* Interesting…she practices something called Transformational Tantra. [Definition of Tantra]

Monique: I KNOW. I don’t want to talk to someone about their sex lives!

Me: I don’t think she’s gonna talk to you about her sex life. The point is to talk to you about yours.

(I’m continuing to browse the gal’s site this whole time.)

Hey, she runs a radio show called Sex and Happiness. That’s kind of nifty. And she did a movie called Tantric Tourists…it won a bunch of awards. It looks like she takes bunches of tourists on trips to India. They learn “the art of surrender.”

Monique about exploded when she heard this. “You’re telling me that people spend thousands of dollars to go to India just to get tied up?! They can get that for free at home.

Me: *laughing* I think you’re confusing “surrender” with “bondage,” Honey.

Monique: And THIS is why you’re the one who’s going to write this post!

And so I did. I’ve actually placed it below, along with links to this gal’s new movie, Beyond Dinner. It sounds like they’re combining dinner with Speed Dating, but I’ll let you decide for yourselves. For $1.99, I’m totally checking it out.

Beyond Dinner…More Than A New Way To Eat
by Jenny Hansen

Photo by ECooper99 at WANA Commons

Photo by ECooper99 at WANA Commons

December ‘tis the season’ when Americans kick their schedules up a notch, from “really busy” to “downright insane.” The downside to this holiday insanity is it keeps us from paying attention, to our loved ones and ourselves.

Give yourself a unique gift this holiday season and embrace. . .You.

According to Dr. Oz, our four basic needs as humans are food, water, sleep and sex. You heard me – we need all four to be truly well and happy.

Do you take the time to celebrate your body? Your spirit? Do you give yourself the gift of both rest and play?

Let me introduce you to Laurie Handlers. A tantric teacher, Laurie believes, “Sex energy runs the world. The sooner we make peace with that, the better our lives will be.” Between her books and her films, I guarantee she’ll help you banish the word boring from your bedroom and replace it with fun.

Her latest video romp, Beyond Dinner, turns the simple act of eating into a carnival for the senses. Following the basic principles of a Gate Dinner (pronounced gah-tay – gate is Sanskrit for “beyond”), the women and men in this short film are seated on pillows on the floor in a dining area. After a quick workshop on setting boundaries to teach the art of “Yes,” “No,” and “Not now, maybe later,” these diners are off for a night of exploring the senses.

With each course, the men change places at the table until all the participants have experienced feeding and being fed by the others at the table. Red wine and decadent chocolate dessert are served before the meat and potatoes, creating a sensual smorgasbord of food.

Searching for a gift to get your honey’s engine revving this holiday season? Look no further.

Beyond Dinner has food, wine, candlelight and tons of lighthearted play. This is dinner as you’ve never seen it eaten. I’m eyeing a rental copy as a quick and easy stocking stuffer for my husband, to help kick off a New Year’s Eve romantic date for two. At $1.99, I can’t go wrong. If we love it, I can buy it forever for $6.99.

If you’re looking to add some erotic spice to your holidays, I highly recommend a shopping trip through Laurie Handlers’ holiday deals.


So, now I’m opening the discussion up to all of you. What do you think about this tantric business? And how about the concept behind the Gate Dinner? (Monique couldn’t get over the idea of someone she barely knew putting their hands all over her food.)

I’m simply dying to hear what y’all think about this concept… ESPECIALLY Hubby!

About Jenny Hansen

By day, Jenny provides training and social media marketing for an accounting firm. By night she writes humor, memoir, women’s fiction and short stories. After 15 years as a corporate software trainer, she’s delighted to sit down while she works.

When she’s not at her personal blog, More Cowbell, Jenny can be found on Twitter at JennyHansenCA or at Writers In The Storm. Jenny also writes the Risky Baby Business posts at More Cowbell, a series that focuses on babies, new parents and high-risk pregnancy.



  1. Good to see you here, Jenny! Whenever I think of Tantric sex, I think of Sting. Probably because he and his wife Trudy are way into Tantra and are not shy about talking about it in interviews. I read one way back in the 80’s and now I associate the two. Not necessarily a bad thing since Sting is pretty darn cute.

    Still, I wouldn’t make it past the first guy in the Gate Dinner. People feeding me just makes me giggle. Like, busting a gut, can’t breathe, and can’t stop giggling kind of giggles. It’s not pretty or sexy. I’d totally be THAT girl that no one wanted to sit with.

    Good thing there are far more ways of bringing Tantric ideals into the bedroom.

    • Hey…Tameri Goes Tantra!! I love it. 🙂

      And it’s safe to say that if you were at the filming, giggling, they might have had to call in your understudy. I’m a sympathetic giggler and cryer, so I’d have been right there with you, rolling in the aisles.

  2. Okay! So! You had me at Tantric. Why?

    Well. I could lie and say it’s because I love learning the meaning of new words. Or, I could lie and say it’s because I am vaguely familiar with the term. Or, I could lie in my imaginary Tantra chair (positioned in the “special events” room to my imaginary tree house) and…

    Well. You’ll just have to Google it yourself to discover what I mean.

    A friend (my own personal Sexipe Wikipedia) gave me a heads up on this wonder of modern furniture design during one of many “I can’t believe I don’t know this…” chats. None of them “hands on.” And, YKWIM.

    What was the prompt again? Oh. Right. Sorry. Got a bit off track there.

    I don’t know that I’d embrace the notion of switching places with complete strangers through the course(s) of dinner, hand-feeding and sending secret signals. I’d be more inclined to make it a one-to-one experience with a properly vetted (and, motivated) partner.

    Santa already has me on his naughty list. (Yes!) Thanks to August and her GB series, I’m shedding my staid and reserved persona. Life’s too short not to experience — Oh! — just about anything that’s (1) not harmful, hurtful, or amoral, and (2) adventurous and filled with the potential for new levels of delight.

    The site link? My pal, Pay, and I may pay another visit later today. Shell out the extra five bucks and buy a dang copy, Jenny!

    • So Gloria, I think you should know that I received the “Dr. Ruth Award” in my college dorm. Perhaps we should start “Sexipedia” together. We’d make a mint. 🙂

      • No chit Do tell, Jenny! Good to know your shared wisdom about Vajayay Coloring books, OMG and the opposite syndromes, and Undie Chronicles was honed over many years.

        [Makes it a bit obvious I’m addicted to More Cowbell, doesn’t it?]

        We may have to enlist the aid of Natalie and Bad Hubby Bad for certain out-of-the-box terms, together with examples on use in not-so-normal daily conversations in public.

        Together? We would rock the Sexipedia world.

        Off to Google ™ rights. Get busy writing content. I’ll meet you in the KY Mint Jelly section at your local Trader Joe’s.

        • ROFL. Yep, I went to college in Missouri (where no one seemed to have clued their girls in on where the Vajayjay was and what it did. Go figure.

          p.s. I’ve never seen that aisle in TJ’s before! I’ve got to shop at your Trader Joe’s the next time I’m in Texas. 🙂

        • Must chat with Natalie about blog-jacking etiquette. I was going to see how winky-dink we could take these comments.

          Go figure, indeed. When I was a freshman in college a frat pledge scavenger hunt caused a gal across the hall to come running from her room, shouting, “They just asked me if I had a douche bag! Who would own such a thing?!?”

          ‘Course, when I was a freshman in college, I would have been sitting cross-legged at the foot of your bed with a notepad and pen. “And, then…?

        • LOL…no you wouldn’t have. We would have been publishing the campus paper together, all saucy-like.

  3. Very cool that you are expanding your horizon’s, Jenny. And via tantric sex, no less. I first learned this word riding the bus to high school passing by the Tantra Apartments in Boulder, Co. Yes, I had to look it up. What self-respecting sixteen year old wouldn’t search out a new word? I often wondered what went on at those apartments!
    Sounds like a very interesting move, and what a X-mas present. Sounds like a babysitter night for sure!

    • Oh my God…what were they thinking, naming a place Tantra Apartments! Perhaps it was a meditation symbol, or perhaps a brothel. 🙂

      I’ll confess that I’ve got no knowledge whatsoever on Tantra. Perhaps I need to rent “Tantric Tourists.” Or maybe just watch a Sting interview. I’m with Tameri…he was TURBO HOT back in the day.

  4. Holy cowbell, Jenny! I have no other words. 😀

  5. Hubby Claus! says:

    I’m not sold on this concept for many reasons:
    When I eat -it’s not sexy for anyone.
    Playing “food tease” with a hungry man is just plain dangerous…oh I’d be drooling but for all the wrong reasons.
    Getting down and dirty video rentals usually contain titles like Brotha Load, Foreskin Gump, and Star Trek – The Next Penetration …..not Beyond Dinner!!!

    But your story does explain a trip I took to the video rental store years ago where a middle aged man was coming out of the “key club” section with 5 porn films and carrying a party sized bag of Skittles….now that’s Tantric!!!!

  6. amyskennedy says:

    I think it should start before eating/being fed. Make the food together–I mean really together. I had (literally) forgotten this, but I was making meatloaf (I know, like the least sexy food on the planet) I like to get in their with my hands, mixing all the ingredients, and my husband came up behind me and began to mix it with me–it was like that scene in Ghost with the clay! But it was meatloaf. It was so damn sexy.

    Anyway, that actually explains my love of meatloaf. Hmm.

  7. Ok…sad to say it but I am with hubby on this one. God love her for her efforts but…this is just a wee bit too out of the box for me. Not that my box is big and bad to begin with. I am pretty conservative in the boudoir (I KNOW…shocker!!). I have enough trouble getting all “sexed” up in the comfort of my home with hubby let along at dinner with strangers – SWITCHING strangers – OMG heart attack! I think my hooha literally puckered and NOT in a good way!

    That doesn’t even take into account FEEDING EACH OTHER? Ok…where have those hands been? Have they been washed properly? And what if he’s all shaky from nerves and I accidentally bite down too soon? Or worse…what if he does some slick “leave-finger-linger-in-mouth-hoping-she’ll-suck” thing…GROSSSSS….

    Don’t even get me started on dirty finger nails…

    To me, Beyond Dinner is a recipe for disaster, not sex….just sayin’!

    Now…if it was JUST hubby and I and we had already had somewhat of a meal (cause don’t freaking talk to either of us if we are hungry…) and we were serving dessert (chocolates and strawberries) and champagne on the living room floor, on a fur rug, in front of the fire place (room already nice and hot)…I’d be down for THAT! My kind of trantra!!!


    And yeah, my idea of porn night is a wee bit more hard core than that…ROFL!!

    • You’re killing me with this comment, but this line sent me over the edge:
      “if he does some slick “leave-finger-linger-in-mouth-hoping-she’ll-suck” thing…GROSSSSS….”

      You’ve got a really good point there.

      So Tameri would be laughing.
      You’d be biting people’s fingers off.
      And Gloria and I would be madly scribbling notes for our new Sexipedia venture…

  8. Hmmm. I’m intrigued. My hubby however, wouldn’t be at all up for this. First of all, he gobbles down his food so fast he barely has time to taste it and second, he absolutely hates to share – anything. We can’t go to dinner and share dessert, we can’t have burger and share the fries, he won’t even let me have a sip of his beverage. We can’t even share popcorn at the movies, we have to each get our own box. Sharing is not his thing.

    I’m going to do some Googling though. Count on it.

    Patricia Rickrode
    w/a Jansen Schmidt

    • Your guy can’t even share popcorn??? What was he, an only child? OK, it sounds like HE needs to give YOU the stocking stuffer so you can dream of a little food sharing. 🙂

  9. Okay, so I’m the person with some OCD-like issues regarding hand cleanliness. Seriously. I can’t see rubber or food service gloves (think Subway) being very romantic…and one or the other would be necessary – if I were going to let some stranger feed me without a spoon or fork…or even a spork (which would take sexy to a whole new low). And Natalie brings up a good point about the whole finger linger thing, too. I’m sure it would ruin the moment for all of the ‘guests’ to hear a guy cry out in pain, and then whimper for the rest of the evening because…given the right circumstances….I would bite. 😉

    So…Gate Dinners? Yeah, probably not something I could do (said while shaking head and gazing lovingly at the 56 oz bottle of Germ-X beside desk). But it was fun to read about, Jenny!

  10. You can tell I’m an old broad, because this just made me tired. LOLOL!

  11. I’m not sure how feeding dinner to a stranger will help me with The Butterfly, but who am I to question a sexpert?!?

    Tantra is like combining yoga, meditation, stretching and sex all into one event.

  12. Merry Christmas, Nat (and Hubby)!!!!

  13. Raani York says:

    Now… THIS was interesting… *chuckle*
    And I’m not even giving a real comment… just expressing my opinion…
    And of course: telling you to go on! Well done!! 🙂

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