A palooza of romance: hubby’s top 5

Tomorrow is Valentine’s day and I’ve got a week-long love fest planned for you. Buckle up for a palooza of all things romantic, sappy and corny. We are going to kick off the week with the top 5 romantic things hubby has done in our over 7 years together.

1. Nat’s Day – Letters of the alphabet. Very early on in our relationship, hubby planned and executed a day-long scavenger hunt. All day long I received different clues and deliveries that led me to flowers, love notes, cards and presents all with these little foam letters attached. Each letter came with a note. “A is for how adorable you are; B doesn’t begin to describe your beauty” etc. At the end of the day when I got home with my entire alphabet, I found the original alphabet form to put all the letters in. When I did, and flipped it over, there was a message to meet hubby at his place. There he had dinner, dessert and an evening of the Notebook all planned for us.

Nat's Day - Letters of the Alphabet

Nat's Day - Letters of the Alphabet

2. Nat’s Day – Keys. Another day-long scavenger hunt for little gold keys (you know, the ones for those tiny luggage locks). Throughout the day, I came across them in a million different ways; packages delivered by co-workers, in the trunk of my car, and hidden in flowers. At the end of the day, all of the keys unlocked a box which promised a night of romance.

Nat's Day - Keys

Nat's Day - Keys

Nat's Day - Keys

3. Nat’s Day 3 – Mission Possible. This time it was a scavenger hunt for CDs. Each CD was part of an all-day mission for Bruce Easily (hubby) and Fatality (me) to hook up for a night of romance. And each CD contained hints about where and when to find the next.

Nat's Day - Mission Possible


4. A day for Dad. My Dad was killed when I was 16 years old. One year, on the anniversary of his death, hubby gifted me with a large picture frame that he put together with a picture of my Dad, a few of me growing up, and the poem I wrote for Dad’s funeral. He also gave me my first orchid (my Dad grew orchids).

A day for Dad

5. The millions. The millions of flowers I’ve received; the hundreds of romantic messages in dreamy cards; the foot rubs, massages, and spa evenings; the never-ending surprise dinners; the engagement proposal; and….the never-tiring cuddles, snuggles, chick flicks, back tickles and hair pulls.

Hubby’s talent for all things romance makes me a very lucky lady indeed. There’s nothing that makes a gal feel more special and loved than surprises and unexpected gestures of adoration. And I gotta say, hubby delivers in spades.

How do you breath romance into your relationships? What’s the most romantic thing someone’s ever done for you?

Prize Alert: Last Monday I did an author’s spotlight featuring the amazing Elena Aitken and we did a fahhhbulous book giveaway. Here are the winners:

  • Julie Glover – Nothing Stays in Vegas e-Book
  • Louise Behiel – Nothing Stays in Vegas e-Book
  • Darlene Steelman – Nothing Stays in Vegas e-Book
  • Marcia Richards – Grand Prize – Drawing Free signed copy

Elena is gone on vacay (lucky lady) so she will connect with y’all upon her return. In the meantime, fire me your email addys to Natalie at nataliehartford dot com. I will forward the info along to Elena and she can get in touch with each of you upon her return Feb 25.

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  1. Wow, Natalie! Your hubs sets the bar high for all the other guys out there! Thanks so much for sharing these personal moments with us. They were so sweet!

  2. Very clever ideas. I can’t say I’ve ever had anything that imaginative, but to me it’s the little, simple things that make V Day so special. My most memorable was receiving flowers (standard, I know, but not this time), from my hubby when he was in the Gulf War, thousands of miles away. The fact that he even remembered at a time like that (if you remember, we did not know what we were up against sending troops over there), had so much on his plate doing his job managing fighter jets, no great communication (cell phones, computers were not available there – just the plain old telephone which you had to wait in line for for hours), but still made the arrangement to get flowers to me was amazing and very special to me.

    • Oh Helen that is BEAUTIFUL! You know, it’s not about how grand a gesture is. It’s how that gesture speaks to YOU! Your husband sounds like a remarkable and wonderful man!! Very special indeed!!! Thanks sooo much for stopping by and sharing your story – loved it!

  3. I agree with Kathy, your hubby is setting the bar awful high for the rest of men out there, but OMG so sweet! You guys obviously have A LOT of fun in your relationship. Priceless Natalie!

  4. Wow hubby is wonderfully romantic. lucky you. sounds like a fun guy. can’t wait to get my book from Elena. thanks for the prize, Natalie

  5. OMG! I think you’re married to the most romantic man ever! I didn’t even think such a man existed. Lucky you!

  6. Your husband is a marvelous man, but you already know that. My husband presented me with a similar “Pleasure Certificate” one time. It was so sweet and still a memory I cherish.
    My birthday is tomorrow so he planned my party for last Saturday so people could come. He reserved a banquet room and invited friends to join us. He made a very sweet speech and then sang a song to me. I wish I were half as sweet and romantic as he is. I really don’t deserve him.
    Where do men like ours come from? I honestly don’t think they’re from Mars or maybe they were born there but then adopted by a family on Venus. They really “get” us.

  7. Oh, one more thing. The present he gave you honoring you dad is so sweet. My dad died when I was 12. Just looking at the framed gift, I feel how you must have felt when he presented this to you. You’re a lucky woman and he’s a lucky man.

    • It was so emotional Ali. I cried. I bawled. I was so touched. No one in my life had ever done something like that. And we had only been dating about 4 months at that point. He had to connect with my MOM behind my back to put everything together. I knew he was special and amazing but that totally sealed the deal for me…blew me away!

      • It was an extremely special act of love. When my dad died I was still young. It left a hole in my heart the size of the pacific ocean. My mom was great but she could only fill the mom hole in my heart. Your husband had a sense about the importance of your dad in your life and he took action. I think loving people like him are how our wounds are healed and the holes filled in, don’t you?

        • Wow. Ali, you spoke such truth for me. I didn’t realize how deeply traumatized I was by my Dad’s death as I grew into a woman. I was left paralyzed emotionally by an extreme fear of abandonment. I wasn’t able to open up emotionally and truly love and trust. Hubby has always recognized that and took his time showing me how to open up, love and let go of my fears. He showed me that I am stronger than I thought. He has always had an amazing sensitivity about the mark my Dad’s death left on me and somehow he has always known just how to heal those wounds. Absolutely. I’ve never heard another person explain it so clearly. Your understanding is astounding. I love it. Thank you soooo much for sharing…moved me to tears!! HUGS!!

  8. Wow! Your hubby is definitely a sweetheart. Mine’s great, but he’s definitely not creative like this. The picture frame with your dad’s photos is beautiful. That’s an incredibly thoughtful gift. And thank you for the shout out!

    • Romantic gestures, no matter how big or small, are meaningful because they speak to us individually. Creativity is wonderful but it’s the love from the heart that is most important and it sounds like your hubby delivers in spades as well Stacy! 🙂

  9. What a romantic!! *sweet sigh* I LOVE that you are adored, Miss Natalie!

    • Awwwww…thank you Myndi.
      It might sound corny but hubby loves me in JUST the right ways…and that is the most special gift of all! 🙂 Finding a partner who speaks your language…amazing!

  10. What a wonderful husband! You are both so lucky to have each other, but you know that don’t you? My hubbie is great for anniversary gifts. One of my favorites was a surprise hot air balloon trip. Champagne, chocolate and lots of sweetness.

    I am not nearly as thoughtful as he is, but maybe I improve my record tomorrow.

  11. There’s got to be an award for Scott. I’m sure of it ! And … as I continue to suggest … then there’s the reality show. It’s got to happen. The love the two of you share is a beautiful thing. Happy Valentine’s Day!

    • LOL!! I was going to write to Oprah once to acknowledge him as “the most romantic man ever” but then her show closed. Dang! LOL!
      I couldn’t agree more Patricia, our love is special and wondrous.
      Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours….

  12. That’s so sweet! What a great hubby!

  13. He’s a keeper! He really throws his heart and soul into his projects for you. Amazing!

  14. Oh, Natalie. It means so much to me that you have such a loving, thoughtful husband. And can we say ROMANTIC! Wow. You deserve every bit. 🙂

    One of the most romantic things my hubby did before we were even dating was cover boxes of my belongings with a tarp during a rainstorm. (No, he wasn’t stalking me. We were neighbors. LOL) I assumed my landlord did it until hubby and I became a couple. Then it seemed obvious. He’s thoughtful and loving without any need for show or credit. (Though of course, show is fun!)

    • Awwww…thank you August. Hubby is definitely a gem as is yours!!! How SWEET that he did that for you and never even mentioned it to you…thoughtful and loving for sure!!! I love it!!!

  15. Thanks so much for the shout out to my dodging diets post! I got so lost in my gushing, I forgot to mention it. LOL Means soo much!!

  16. You guys make an awesome couple 🙂 Such a romantic relationship – I think you need to write a book about it, Natalie!

    Congratulations to all of the winners!

  17. Woo-hoo! I’m a winner. I’m so excited to read the ebook.

    As to romance, I’m married to Spock. So romantic moments are few and far between, even though he’s very loving in other ways. The most romantic thing he’s ever done, though, was to write me a love poem. It was AMAZING! He is not a writer, nor a romantic, but he took the time to say how much he loved me in poetic words. Some of it was kind of silly, but that made it even more special. I will keep that piece of paper forever. Even Spock can get inspired sometimes and woo the wife really well. Great stuff from your hubby, Natalie! What a romantic.

  18. You have Mr. Romance living right under your roof! If you incorporate some of this into your book you’re going to make your readers swoon. Authors love swooning readers. Gee, if I need help with a romance problem in my book I’m calling YOU. Happy Valentine’s Day friend:)

  19. This is incredible! He’s so creative. What a keeper!!

  20. Natalie, your husband will be one of the first that all women will want to clone! My husband my be the second one(just cause he’s older-lol)! Bruce has an amazing imagination for things that will make you happy! What a guy!
    I can’t believe i won the grand prize!!! OMG! I never win anything!! I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true..and now, having won this awesome book, I’ll never again have to say I never win anything. 🙂 I’ll be in touch via email. Thanks, Natalie and Elena!!!

  21. One…your hubby REALLY needs to start a romantic man training blog….complete with tips like this- and the promise of castration if they don’t follow his instructions…to the letter. Second…when you have him cloned, I have dibs on the first one.

    What a very blessed woman you are!

  22. Oops. I LOVE the Mission Possible thing. What a creative guy!

  23. Wow! What a great post. 🙂 I love the “pleasure trunk” – – what a wonderful idea. 🙂
    And thank you much for the prize! I am stoked…
    Happy Valentine’s Day, Natalie! I will email you later.

  24. OMG, shut the hell up, I can’t even speak from the jealousy I have of you right now! My husband brings me flowers on occasion, just because, but nothing ever like this! Well, he gives amazing massages, but still. I’m oozing green goo right now, just so you know.

  25. Thanks Natalie for the blog love, and I love you’re hubby. Can I sign mine up for lessons? Does he hire out his planning skills? Enquiring minds want to know.

  26. I’ll confess, my favorite is the tribute to your father. That’s about the sweetest thing I’ve ever heard.

    And I am so sorry to hear that he was killed. I have always thought he died naturally, not that he was torn from your life. Losing two parents (him and Scott’s mama) that way is just cruel. 😦

    Sorry to be Captain Bringdown, but my heart just bled for you for a very long moment…

    • It was one of the most incredible things anyone has ever done for me Jenny. I hadn’t realized how traumatized I was left by the death of my father. For years, I was paralyzed emotionally with a fear of abandonment that crippled me in all my relationships (but especially those with men). Scott saw that and he…well…helped me open up and heal – slowly but surely. And his tribute to my father was one of the first steps in helping break through those walls. It was life changing. For the first time, someone saw ME and what I needed and delivered it….with love! Wow!
      Yes…cruel for sure!! It was never something I wanted to have in common with Scott. I was devastated for him that he had to go through something similar….simply devastated for him!!!
      Real moments like this rock Jenny. Your comments moved me to tears!! Thank YOU for sharing…we bleed together…

      • I lost my mama WAY too young, due to medical negligence, so believe me I somewhat understand having a parent ripped from you for no good reason. It’s dreadful and takes a lo-o-o-ng time to get over. It takes even longer to stop feeling angry and robbed. Good for your hubby for helping you heal, and to you for allowing it. 🙂

        Sending you a big hug!

  27. Elena Aitken says:

    OMG! Your hubby is amazing!!
    Now how to share this post with my lovely husband without being totally obvious….

    Also! Congrats to the winners of the draw! I’m back (although not totally acclimated, brr!) And will get it together this week and send you your prizes!

    • Awwww…thanks Elena – he is a gem!
      I suggest printing it out and leaving it under his pillow. No need to be subtle when it comes to romance. Ask and you shall receive, right?! LOL!!
      I’ll send you the email addy’s I have…hope vacay was AWESOME!


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