Public displays of affection gone wild???

Hubby and I enjoy "reasonable" PDA

What’s your take on public displays of affection (PDA)?

For me, I am pretty much in favor of lots of PDA. Growing up, my parents were very openly affectionate with each other; always holding hands and kissing in the kitchen while making dinner etc. They were happy and the most in love couple I knew so I’ve always associated reasonable PDA as a symbol a healthy and vibrant relationship.

Lucky for me, hubby’s on board. We almost always hold hands everywhere we go. It’s not unusual to see me curl up to him if we are standing in line. I will rub his back as we semi hug each other. He’ll bring his head down to kiss me on the forehead.

We engage in the occasional kiss in public. We aren’t talking lip locked, tongue exchange R-rated kissing. Just a nice, semi mouth-opened smooch. It has more meaning and substance than a peck but I think is classy and tasteful. We obviously aren’t gearing up for the bedroom or anything.

At parties, friends usually make snide remarks because we typically stick together. We’ll enjoy drinks and laughs but are always delicately pawing at each other. Kisses, winks, pats on the bum. They’ll tell us to get a room…I think they’re all just jealous!

It’s something I love about us! I think it keeps things sparkly, fresh, and feeling new and exciting. I also think it keeps our passion and romance alive and well.

But how much PDA is too much?

Last week I got my answer. Hubby and I pulled into the parking lot for death by swimming. It was dark out. The public pool is part of a middle school that offers a number of after-school activities for kids and families so it’s a pretty busy spot. The parking lot was about half full (around 20 vehicles) with families arriving and leaving.

We circled around the bulk of the cars and came around the back of a 4-door car parked towards the furthest of the bunch (but certainly not off on its own). As we did, I noticed a young guy, teenager, sitting in the back seat. It struck me as odd but not totally unthinkable. Maybe he was waiting for his parents who were inside picking up his kid sister, right?

Isn’t that weird….” I said to hubby sort of indicating with a head gesture towards the car.

He’s totally getting a blow job…didn’t you see him pat her head as we drove past?” hubby replied.

No freaking way. No! Stop it. You are sick and demented. Who would do that in the semi-lit parking lot of a middle school with families and children around?

I mean, it was dark out and the parking lot wasn’t lit up like Christmas but still?!?! If this guy was getting a blow job surely he would have parked further off to the darkest, unoccupied edge of the parking lot so as NOT to be seen for sure…by a child no less! As we were having this conversation, we circled around to the front of the car in question so our lights shone RIGHT in it for a good 30 seconds. I took a good, HARD look and honestly, I didn’t see any “girl” doing anything. I chalked it up to hubby’s sick and perverted imagination (I mean…dirty, wool cock sock…need I say more!?!?).

We were there a few minutes shooting the breeze while we waited for our other swimming partner to join us.

That’s when hubby said “seeee…there’s a girl sitting up now?

I looked and nope…I didn’t see anything. Hubby’s on crack! But…wait…wait a minute…wait….


There was a girl sitting up, in the backseat….smoking a CIGARETTE no less. My mouth fell open….I was stunned….

To make matters worse, not 2 minutes later, 2 other teens came strolling along out of NO WHERE and jumped in the driver and passenger seat and the car took off. My stomach lurched! They had obviously gone for a “walk” so these two could get their freak on.

Hubby looked at me, winked, and sort of gestured his head as if to say “my turn?”

In your dreams big guy….I am all for going “parking” but NOT in a packed, middle school parking lot. I have standards. It’d have to at least be in the woods or something…

What’s your take on PDA? Ever go parking? How about going parking in public?



  1. Jessica O'Neal says:

    Hahahahaha! Oh wow…that is ridiculous. But I can’t say I am that surprised. I’m with you – a little PDA is nice, but that (especially with teenagers!) is taking things wayyy too far. Thank you for sharing this hilarious story!

  2. Ha ha ha ha. Ah ha ha ha! Oh I can imagine the look on your face when you saw the girl. I am so not going to tell you about any going parking from a past life, like in public. Heh.
    As for PDA, I do sometimes wonder when I see people doing continuous cuddling. I went to a comedy club a few weeks ago and a couple sat facing each other and “playing” most of the night. What was the motivation to do that and barely watch the show? I get affection. There are just times when some couples need to let in a piece of the moment and place they are in. My 6 cents. 😉

    • I couldn’t agree more Barbara – what was the point of taking in the show? That’s definitely not hubby and mine’s style. And we don’t like to make other people uncomfortable or weirded out…that’s not cool! I think it’s about respect.
      Well now…sounds like you got a few stories of your own from back in the day. LOL!!!!

  3. First off let me clear the obvious misconception – THE SOCK WAS NOT DIRTY!!! It was simple and CLEAN attempt at a vintage concept Mundie – a Mundie 1.0 you might say!

    Secondly – Nice picture there Love Button! At least you got my good side!

    Thirdly- any good man worth his salt would have extended the “winky, hairy eyeball” invitation….cause when the “elephant mundie” trumpets – it’s ready to play a tune!

  4. Jillian Dodd - Glitter, Bliss and Perfect Chaos says:

    This is a funny story, as all of yours are. I think a little parking lot fun can be, well fun. And it’s not like they are sitting on a park bench doing it. They were in a car! No one saw them. Maybe she was taking a nap and he offered his lap. Wasn’t that sweet of him?

  5. I’m a preacher’s daughter, and I refuse to answer the “have I gone parking?” question. *whistling innocently* Seriously, however, some activities do indeed require a room! Pecking, holding hands, embraces, etc. are fine. Removal of clothing to engage should be a clue that privacy is a necessary component. I guess as teenagers, they didn’t think they had anywhere else to go. Or maybe they just didn’t care.

    • Love the whistling innocently!!! LOL!!!
      I agree, removal of clothing is definitely a clue…now I am all for parking but never in a middle school parking lot with families coming and going. LOL! Ahhh…the joy of being a teen?! 🙂

  6. I so agree with reasonable PDA. It does keep a relationship alive and kicking! As for the teenagers, poor choice of location, but when they have urge, all good reasoning goes out the window.
    Adults, however, can go too far and can’t be excused. I have seen people fully engaged in sex in a public park, out in the open. I was surprised, though little shocks me anymore. I’m just glad I didn’t have small children with me. 🙂

    • OMG in a PARK?!?! That’s insane!!! I agree, teenagers can lose all sense of reason but I definitely expext more of adults. I like PDA but I am not an exhibitionist.

    • Marcia, I once saw a drunk couple going at it on the little strip of grass between the sidewalk and the street. Why must I scrub the vision of some dude’s hairy ass off MY retinas? Can’t y’all get a room? Rent a van? Set up a tent???? Hello?!

      There’s always options that don’t involve scarring my eyeballs (or that of other young bystanders).

  7. Well, I’d have to say I’m with you on the amount of PDA I’m comfortable with.

    As for the kids, I totally would’ve held up a piece of paper with a score from 1-10 on it. You know, just to let them know I knew what they were doing and to maybe humiliate them a little. Since they were in a parking lot, the score would have to be low. That’s just tacky.

    I wonder if she was smoking at the same time as… nevermind. That’s just weird.

  8. Ha! I’m laughing. Loudly. Having been raised in MN and not around much PDA, I’m probably more into it than the average JoAnne. That said, I have my limits, which vary depending on the environment. Middle school parking lot, not so much.

    PDAs were a bit tough to deal with in Paris, where I lived for a short time. I once sat on a park bench and within minutes was surrounded by two making-out-couples. Unfortunately there was no Pierre for me to latch on to…or beau in my life. Kiss and squeeze lots, but respect others. That’s my take.

    • Yeah, I don’t know what it is but middle schools don’t really get my mojo going. LOL!
      Oh my land, Paris, I had no idea. That’s a wee bit intense and I am with you, it would have weirded me out a bit. Respect others – soooo true!

  9. Sorry, I’m non-PDA. Working in a restaurant, we’ve seen it all. In the bathrooms, under the tables etc. And that’s not just hand holding. Try to set down a hot plate of pasta when the customers won’t let go of each other? Oy. Someone’s gonna get burned, and it’s usually me! =) I agree, have respect for others you’re with, and watch out for hot food! =)

  10. PDA is a good thing within reason. I love watching couples who are able to be affectionate with each other. Warm fuzzies. Unfortunately, my ex was never like that except for the two times I, um…made him an offer he couldn’t refuse. Both times in parking lots, but no one saw us – I think. That’s what happens when a woman is deprived….turns her into a trash-mama. Oh, well…

  11. Elena Aitken says:

    Reading these comments are killing me! Thanks for the laughs everyone.
    As for me…I plead the fifth. We can do that in Canada, can’t we??

  12. Laughing hysterically! I love your posts girl! I have to tell you I know of a big name star that got his freak on like that in the parking lot of a movie theater my friend worked at. Crazy crap. Should we be thankful he was with his wife that night? I believe it wasn’t long after they were getting a divorce. Hollywood. I don’t recall an “sexy” movies playing at the show that night. Hmm

  13. Absolutely so late for this post, but can’t resist commenting. First, my hubby and I have been married for 20+ years and we still enjoy the PDA. Our girls blush for us. LOL!

    Similar situation for us about excessive PDA last year —- we were waiting on our younger daughter to leave play practice and saw a teen couple performing same PDA on a park bench. Yup. There was a large fair across from the theater and the teens found a semi-dark corner with a park bench and, well, hello! My husband was dying to go creep up on them and scare the girl, but I wouldn’t let him. There were little children roaming around and I really didn’t think we chance drawing attention to them. (Thankfully, 4 years old are more interested in cotton candy and blinking lights than teens in corner.)

    Ayiiiii… was just. too. weird.

  14. Totally hilarious! And you are right. PDA is nice, it shows that people care about each other and have a healthy relationship. But I think the key there is A. It stands for affection. Holding hands is affection. A blow job is sex. Anything that involves the tongue crosses the line, I think. I had a few friends in college who were into public sex. It’s not my thing, but I think it was ok for them because of the circumstances. It was college. It’s a time to be risky and if they were going to be caught, it would be by an adult. Doing anything sexual in a place designated for children is wrong. Actually, I believe it’s a crime and can get a person registered as a sex offender.


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