This month I would like to highlight the Happiness Project Blog.
Summary of the blog
A few years ago, Gretchen Rubin had an epiphany on the cross-town bus. She asked herself, “What do I want from life, anyway?” and she thought, “I want to be happy”—but she never spent any time thinking about happiness. She realized that she should do a happiness project. And so she has.
Her happiness project has convinced her that it’s possible to be happier by taking small, concrete steps in your daily life. In her book and on her daily blog, she writes about what she’s learned as she’s test-driven the wisdom of the ages, the current scientific studies, and the lessons from popular culture.
Every Wednesday, she posts a list of tips about how to be happier; every Friday, she proposes a resolution for your happiness project; every Sunday, she posts a quotation to get you thinking more deeply about happiness; and throughout the week, she writes about her adventures as she works to be happier.
Why I like the blog
I like Gretchen’s blog because I am all about creating, consciously, our own personal happiness. I believe that happiness isn’t a “state of being” that naturally occurs or just happens on its own (entirely) – it’s something to consciously and actively pursue and practice to maintain.
Posts that spoke to me
Creativity boot camp – I like this post because, as a procrastinator, I am learning that shorter, intense plans work better for me. Long term ideas and goals are harder for me to stay motivated and focused on – my attention and commitment can wean over time, whereas with shorter term projects, I can capitalize on my enthusiasm and passion when it’s at its highest. As my husband Scott likes to say, I am great out of the gate but not so good on stamina! I am applying a boot camp type strategy to an upcoming healthy lifestyle plan and I plan to implement this strategy with blogging and book writing.
Think about the elephant – I like this post because I am a dweller. I can get myself hung up on an upsetting occurrence and dwell and grumble for hours. And when I start to let it go, I can get myself all worked up in seconds thinking about it again. This post gives me a concrete and useful task to help take my focus away from the irritant and onto something much more pleasant – although for me, I think I will imagine giraffes.
Tigger or Eeyore – I love this post because it absolutely nailed me – I am a Tigger 90% of the time and can often find myself frustrated and depressed when I put too much of my energies into “cheering” someone up or trying to help them see the brighter side – to no avail. Gretchen is right, I need to learn to let go – even when someone comes to me with a problem or an upset, it’s not my job to cheer them up or make them see the brighter side. I need to be authentically me – but let go of the responsibility and know that either my cheerfulness rubs off or it doesn’t. I also need to learn to let Eeyores be Eeyores – there’s no right or wrong in life – just different perceptions.
Be sure to check out the Happiness Project Blog – it’s definitely a worthwhile and fun visit!